You ever notice that when you open social media. One of the main things that flood your time lines are the posts concerning haters. What is a hater you ask? Well a hater is a person that simply cannot be happy for another person’s success. We often hear people talk about their haters on a regular basis. That’s because the world has a plethora of them.
The topic of haters is one that draws excitement in some and concern in others. The excitement that comes from people having having haters is typically derived from the drama aspect of having them. The concern comes from the possible sabotage that some may experience from their alleged haters.
You’ve heard or read peoples opinion of haters as being a motivational force. Their haters have taken the role of being their muse. People tell you that if you have haters you are on the right track. I personally believe there is some truth in this. I believe that your haters can help. Your haters can help you improve and be better than what you currently are. I just don’t believe it’s the total truth. I feel that there are conditions that have to be met in order for your haters to influence and enhance you.
You can definitely learn some things from your haters. One of the things that you can learn from them is what you are actually doing wrong. Unlike most support systems that tell you what you want to hear. Haters will tell you the truth, albeit not often to your face. It’ll pretty much happen behind your back or via a passive @$$ aggressive post, tweet, and or Facebook live. Once you get wind of it. You can decide to decipher the useless from the useful information. Find the meaningful disguised critique that you can learn from. Honest criticism vs dishonest approval.
Honest criticism vs dishonest approval.
Patience is a virtue. One that haters will definitely put to the test. Having haters will require you to learn how to sit back and tolerate being berated and belittled. Depending on your position in life you are not always afforded the opportunity to go toe to toe with your hater. You have to at times weather the storm of hate and confused envy in order to maintain a sense of decorum. You have to take that high road at times. Although to be real with you sometimes I miss that exit on the highway of life.
Haters can push you to greatness. This can happen by using the prior mentioned byproducts of hate and using them to enhance yourself. Your haters can also invite the desire for you to prove yourself. To prove you are the best at what you do and definitely better than them. This is where they can began to influence you. I want you to think of some of the greatest rivalries in the history of sports. Shoot if you know like I know that Ohio State University vs. Michigan rival is real! These two opposing teams push each other toward greatness by way of the energy of hate that they each receive not only from the teams themselves but each other’s whole freaking respective states. This example brings me to my point of conditions being met for you to thrive off of hate.
The rivalry situation is one in which mutual hateration can spur each entity toward greatness. In order to do this the condition of being on the same level has to come into play. Imagine the game of football being played between D1 college team and a pee wee football squad. Not a fair match at all wouldn’t you say? Well that’s the point I’m trying to make. In order for your haters to propel you onward and upward they have to be in the same league. Often times this is not the case. The haters are small time. Even if they gang up it’s like swatting at pesky gnats. The one thing I’ve learned about gnats is that although they at tiny. They can provide you with some nourishment.
Eat them up for breakfast. What really catapults me to being the best I can be are the thousands of people I get to help. D league hater squad just provides me sparks of energy that keeps me going that extra mile. When dealing with small time haters just go ahead and feast on them. I typically don’t use these haters to challenge me but rather wake me and keep me alert. These types of haters tend to say things that not challenge me but remind me not to stop grinding. They also provide small roadblocks that are easily overcome.
So learn to embrace your haters. You should even love them. In some cases they are responsible for you achieving the level of success you’ve garnered.