At some point and time. We’ve encountered people who express to us that they need or want our assistance with something. It can range from needing your help with moving from one apartment to another to asking to BORROW money. When you assist them in achieving their objective. Based on the type of relationship you have with the individual(s), there is often a shift in how both parties choose to respond.
I’ve had quite a bit of experience with helping and being helped (as we’ve all have at some point I’m sure). When I have been the person in need of help. I usually respond with a sentiment of extreme gratitude toward those that have helped me. I also never forget it. I’ve been known to tell someone thank you multiple times years later no matter how minute the assistance was at that time. The idea that someone thought enough of me to stop what they were doing to help me in my time of need.
I usually respond with a sentiment of extreme gratitude toward those that have helped me.
This adds to the drop in the bucket of my faith in that person being someone I can count on as well as just an overall good individual. I have also been on the other side quite a bit of being the helper. There I’ve had more downsides vs. Ups.
I love to see people to succeed. I love to help people. So naturally when they ask me to. I typically jump up to do so. At times I’ve been on the recieving end of the gratitude. More often I’ve been used. I’ve had folk tell me how much they needed me to help them out and once they got that help. They began to initiate the distancing process. The thankfulness they initially had at the start, waned once the objective was met. They became brash and at times friend turned to foe. Promises that they made prior to the assistance became null and void. The I don’t need you anymore syndrome kicked in. These actions justified the destruction of bridges. The theory of reciprocity has been lost.
After someone / people have been there for you during your time of need. It is best practice to be thankful and perhaps reciprocate in some shape form or fashion. While you shouldn’t expect anything in return for helping someone. You should expect as the person that needed help to give something.