I’ve experienced the loss of loved ones to suicide. People that I’ve called family, friends, brother even. It’s one of the worst losses that anyone could ever experience. I believe that suicide is never the fault of anyone. It’s a tragic event that sometimes just happens without warning and other times with a considerable amount of thought. I’ve watched the countless videos of accounts from the individual that died of suicide acquaintances and have heard them say that they didn’t see any signs prior. While they might not have seen them, the signs are always there.
Often, friends and family of someone that died of suicide begin to feel an overwhelming amount of grief, so much so that they began to blame themselves for what occurred. As I cautioned earlier, it’s not your fault. As someone that has made a few attempts in the past, I can say once submitted to the suicidal ideations, it was all me and whatever was going on in my mind at the time. The signs of someone that is living with suicidal thoughts are present and, most times, loud and clear; it’s just that a lot of times, they get passed off as only mood changes/a lousy day. Sometimes the people that encounter those struggling with suicidal ideations will just think that they are just in a funk and will come out of it at some point, so they don’t venture to check on them, and then it’s too late.
While suicide is no one’s fault, we all can be is more Cognizant of the signs. I also understand those that don’t want to be aware of people’s internal struggles. They feel that this makes them accountable if anything happens, and that’s a lot of pressure. It’s okay for you to feel that way and even more unfair to ask you not to. For those who will be on alert, I ask that you speak life to those dealing with suicidal thoughts.
We had a campaign in New York City a while back that said,” If you see something, say something” that something you may say can just save that person’s life.